Have you ever been asked, “Do you mind if I…” as the person who’s speaking is already taken an unsanctioned liberty to proceed in the anticipation of a green light from you? I certainly have many times. And most of the time I don’t mind, but every so often I get annoyed by the impoliteness and the down right disregard for others that some people have. How would you handle the following scenarios?
a.) You have been working 14 hour days away from home for two weeks. It’s finally time to go home and you have been confirmed in First Class in your aisle seat and you are thinking about the free cocktails waiting aboard. When you get to the plane, your seat it is occupied and the guy sitting in your assigned seat says, “Welcome aboard, my travel companion wanted to sit next to me during this flight so we can hold hands. Do you mind if I sit in your aisle sear and you sit in my window seat two rows back?”
b.) You are going to see the opening show of Marvel’s Dr. Strange, you buy your tickets online to ensure that you have the best vantage point in the middle of the theater. You even have the reclining seats. Your tire blew out on the way to the theater and after calling AAA, you just make it as the last preview is ending. When you get to your seats someone is in one of them. You let him know that you purchased K and L and one only one of them is vacant. You notice an empty seat to the left of his date, but before you can say another word he shrugs. Then he goes on to say, “Look, we have been sitting here for twenty minutes, have gotten comfortable, ordered food, and the movie is starting right now. Do you mind moving down to the right two seats so we don’t have to move all of our things and so everyone else can enjoy the movie?”
c.) You finally made it to the next restaurant on your foodie list and it was as good as the reviews. The price was right and the portions were too large to finish. You get a doggie bag, which you plan to eat, and you go home to tell your roommate about the total experience and why it’s going on your all time favorite list. You go to your room to retrieve you MacPro so you can write a quick review to add to your blog and when you return you find your roommate sampling your leftovers by picking out all of the braised meats from the bed of rice and sautéed vegetables. When she notices the look on your face she asks, “Do you mind if I try a little of your leftovers before I go back to clipping my toe nails?”
d.) You finally got invited to the party of the most popular person in your sub-division. They also happen to be eligible and you want to make a good impression. You pick up a expensive outfit that you know is outside your budget, but rationalize it’s a good investment. On the day of the party your best friend comes over and raids your closet. You receive a text just as you finish your shower and are about to get dressed. The text says, “My boyfriend’s parents are in town and I want to make a good impression. I will meet you at the party later. By the way, I borrowed that dress that was hanging in the black bag. I would have taken the shoes too, but your feet are two sizes bigger than mine. This was all last minute. Do you mind if I left the dress I was going to wear since this one is newer and didn’t need to be ironed?”
e.) You rent a car for a family member for tells you they want to ride in style to the prom. They get sick with the flu and end up at the emergency and never make it to the dance. You come by to check up on them and while you’re at it, you figure you might as well turn the vehicle back in since your coupon from Uber will cover your fare to get back home. When you ask for the keys, your cousin goes into a coughing fit and after several moments you have to repeat your request. Your cousin says, “Well, you know I didn’t make it to the prom, but what you don’t know is that I promised my best friend and her date a ride. Would you mind if I gave them the keys to the car. They should be back with the by noon since that when the hotel will make them check out. They are really good drivers?”
What would you do? Would you mind?