Wet blanket

I know that’s sounds like what happens when a baby’s diaper fails.  Wet blankets are people who lack the ability to be happy or excited for anyone other than themselves.  And sometimes they can’t even do that.   Everyone knows at least one person like this.   Sadly, they are lurking all around us hanging in the shadows until something good happens to the people around them.  And then they show up dripping with cold water to extinguish the fires of excitement.

Get promoted on your job and they are the first to say how much harder the work will be and share horror stories about your new manager who they have never met.  Meet a celebrity in that airport and they will tell you that it was an impersonator.   See the President’s motorcade go by and he waves at you and they will say, “…you ain’t seeing nothing thru that tint.”  Some people call them haters, but wet blankets are the worst kind of haters.  They are people you know, love, and sometimes respect.   Folks you thought were in your corner cheering for you.  In fact, they are anchors wishing to moor your where you are and to dull your senses with the status quo.  They can’t handle any change that causes you to ascend in your career, be recognized by others, or makes you feel good about yourself…not even for one moment.

Their taunts sound harmless, but bear closer inspection.  Of all the things they could say, why choose something negative or deflating?  Words are powerful.  They can uplift or tear down, bring joy or cause sadness, motivate or discourage.

But here’s the real question:  Why be a wet blanket to people you call your friends or worse, your own family members?  Further, how does being a wet blanket benefit a hater?  Well, maybe the answer lies within.  Some folks fail to acknowledge the success of others because it keeps them from having to look at themselves and their achievements, rather the lack thereof.  It’s human nature to compare ourselves with others.  But when you are unhappy with yourself it can be hard to peer in the mirror of introspection.

Truthfully, cheering for others is a learned behavior.  You aren’t always going to be the starter.  Heck, sometimes you are not even on the field of play.  So what!  Pick a team and start cheering for them!

Throw that blanket in a dryer and start learning to be encouraging and master that until you are inspirational.  How?  That’s easy as 1, 2, 3.

1.)  Think before you speak.

2.) Make the decision to be constructive.

3.) Pay attention to how your words impact others.

And keep at it until it becomes second nature.

Author: Latane Brackett

A purpose driven, servant leader who has been blessed in more ways than can be counted. I have had the privilege to lead and to serve large teams, and my underlying belief is that all people deserve to be respected and treated with dignity. We are all without limits. We just need to live that way. There is no ceiling on how high you can soar.

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